Arguably the most anticipated day in the surrogacy process, second only to delivery day!
Also a day of anxiousness and nerves as the Intended Parents hopes and dreams ride on this embryo transfer process and growing in the uterus of their chosen gestational surrogate. The embryo transfer procedure can be stressful, but there are some fun tips to help the actual transfer go smoothly.
Other then your doctor and your body, implanting is something that you have little control over. So in the spirit of good luck and in an effort to decrease stress and anxiety, some rituals that are said to bring good vibes and good luck to transfer day have developed. Whether or not these “traditions” are proven to work or increase the odds of a successful transfer are debatable – it’s surely a great way to ease the nerves and channel the positive energy!
1. Lucky Socks
Since socks are usually the only item of clothing you can keep on during a medical procedure, surrogates have adopted this tradition. Wearing green because it’s the color luck – or orange and yellow socks representing fertility in some cultures. Pineapple socks also seem to be a popular choice given that pineapple is an icon for IVF and Infertility. Old Chinese saying “ Warm feet increase the chance of a warm and welcoming uterus.” Many gestational surrogates even choose to get matching lucky socks for their Intended Mother. Here’s a cute pair from SurroSister Design on Etsy!
2. “Sticky Thoughts or Sticky Vibes”
This is a surrogate’s way of saying Good Luck! The phase comes from the idea that a thicker uterus lining will increase the odds of an embryo implanting and “sticking.” Think of it as embryo glue for your surrogacy journey.
Why Pineapple? The core of a pineapple contains Bromelain, which has inflammatory properties. Since implantation or transfer can irritate the uterus – this is seen as a benefit in decreasing implantation issues. There is much debate on how much or even when to consume but many surrogate eat pineapple on transfer day, and the few days following, to hopefully increase their odds at a positive pregnancy test.
4. McDonald’s French Fries
French fries are usually something your doctor warns to stay away from to be a healthy surrogate. However, doctors usually recommend an increase in sodium and protein to reduce the chance of OHSS (Ovarian Hyperstimulation Syndrome) in Egg Donors. So this tradition likely bridged the gap to Surrogates as well. And honestly, I’m not sure anyone would turn down fresh fries – no matter how much benefit they actually carry in the fertilization process! You can even purchase a gift card prior to the big day as a little gift!
Searching surrogate groups and the community at large will also yield more traditions, since everyone has different embryo transfer experiences. Whether you believe in superstition or consider yourself lucky – these traditions can be a fun way to relieve nervousness, ease anxiety and connect with your set of Intended Parents!