The Surrogacy Process For Parents – Family Makers Surrogacy

A Step by Step Guide – What to Expect

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Whether just beginning to research to being a step away from starting your journey, a 1-2 hour free consultation with our agency owner will address all of your questions about gestational surrogacy!

If you were referred by your fertility specialist, a friend, or found us on the internet, the first step is to reach out by phone or email. You will receive a prompt reply from our Agency Owner, Ashlee Hammonds, who will schedule a video call that is convenient for you. This video call allows you to “meet” us face to face from the comfort of your home or office.

Our in-depth discussion with you will include the following topics, in addition to others depending on several factors and personalized to your specific situation:

– Review of your personal history and need for a gestational carrier

– An estimated timeline for your journey

– Fertility clinic or egg donation agency considerations and referrals

– Budget: the expected and unexpected costs related to surrogacy

– State surrogacy laws and how you are protected

– Health insurance in the U.S., and its impact on your journey

– What are you looking for in a surrogate mother?

– What kind of involvement would you like to have during pregnancy?

We understand that there is a lot to consider, which is why we understand that you may need additional information before committing to the process of growing your family through surrogacy. You will never feel pressured to begin until every question has been answered and you are sure you are ready.

When you are prepared to begin the surrogacy process, you will then sign our Family Makers Agency Agreement, a contract outlining all of the ways we support you and your surrogate throughout the gestational surrogacy process. Once a signed agreement has been received, your journey with us begins!


Getting to

Know You

Creating a Profile

One of a surrogacy agency’s essential roles is finding an ideal match for Intended Parents and Surrogates. Each surrogacy agency has its own process of doing this, and our approach is based on getting to know you as much as possible.

In addition to several interviews and calls with you, you will complete our Family Makers Relationship Planner. This important document gives us detailed information and feedback from you, including social and medical history and your expectations for the surrogate you will ultimately be matched with. We will ask for photos and a letter to share with possible matches so that you can describe your story and dreams for a child in your own words.

After gathering enough information from you, we will create an amazing profile to share with potential surrogates. In the same way, you choose a surrogate to match with, the amazing women who serve as surrogates in our program choose their Intended Parents based on the Intended Parents profiles they review. You are provided with a final draft for approval before it is shared with any possible matches.

Background Checks & Medical History

At the same time as we are working on your profile, we will be conducting background checks conducted by a licensed investigator to ensure there is no history of criminal activity or legal concerns we should be aware of that could affect your journey. We will also reach out to your fertility clinic to request any pertinent information needed to match you with a fantastic gestational surrogate.

Surrogate Mother Application

Meeting

Your

Surrogate

Reviewing Your First Prospective Candidate

Unlike some agencies, we do not match Intended Parents based on who has been waiting for the longest. Instead, much consideration goes into presenting a profile to Intended Parents since we understand the stress of waiting or the heartache of a disappointing match. We do not want that for any of our Intended Parents and strive to provide as much relevant information as possible to make your decision. That is why more than 95% of Intended Parents and Surrogates who work with Family Makers agree to the first match they are presented with. We do everything possible to get it right the first time. Check out some of our former and current Surrogates with Family Makers who have helped our Intended Parents here.

Meeting Your Prospective Surrogate

Many Intended Parents have described meeting their prospective surrogate mother to be very much like a first date. You have seen one another’s profile and like what you see. Still, it can be a little nerve-wracking when you have so much invested in the process while trying to create a conversation out of thin air. Rest assured that we will prepare you to know exactly what to discuss, and a member of our staff will help guide the conversation to ensure that all major topics are covered. No worries if you forget to ask a question or think of one after your call! We can clarify anything you need to know before deciding to match with a Surrogate.
It’s a Match! At Family Makers, our matching process means that both the Intended Parents and Surrogate agree to the match and general terms that both parties have agreed upon. We believe that communication is the foundation for a healthy journey, so we encourage you to begin building your relationship with your match immediately. Once a match is official, we will provide email and phone contact information so that you can start getting to know one another.


Medical

Screening

Medical Record Review & Screening

When a prospective Surrogate applies to Family Makers, one of the first things we do is a thorough medical record review. Records about previous obstetric and gynecological history, pregnancy, and delivery of previous babies are reviewed for any issues that could cause possible problems for future pregnancies. Once they have passed the Family Makers’ approval process, they are sent to your fertility specialist for final review and approval. Intended Parents can choose to have records sent to their clinic before meeting their Surrogate or after their first match meeting.

Medical and Psychological Screening

Once your fertility clinic has confirmed that your prospective Surrogate’s medical records are acceptable, a licensed mental health professional performs a psychological evaluation. This lengthy interview is an opportunity for the psychologist or social worker to go over the risks and responsibilities of surrogacy, the social history of the surrogate and her significant other, and to assess several things to determine if your prospective surrogate is an appropriate candidate. This evaluation also typically includes a group consultation with the Intended Parents to review and clarify sensitive and vital topics known to come up in surrogacy arrangements as a group. Lastly, your surrogate match may be required to complete a standardized personality assessment called an MMPI-2 or PAI, an additional tool used to assist the mental health professional in the overall evaluation.

Psychological assessment may be completed before or during her physical medical screening process at your fertility clinic.

In addition to a mental health evaluation, your Surrogate will be required to travel to your fertility clinic for a day of testing and appointments. Extensive blood tests will be taken from her and her partner to look for infectious diseases, common health problems, and drug use. An ultrasound will be performed to evaluate her uterus for any scar tissue, fibroids, polyps, or anatomical malformations that could interfere with becoming a Surrogate.

Once the medical approval process is complete, she will return home. She should receive final approval confirmation in 1-2 weeks once blood tests and psychological evaluation have been reported.

Psychological assessment may be completed prior to or during her physical medical screening at your fertility clinic.  This one to two day appointment with your RE will include an interview, pelvic exam, ultrasound and blood work.  Additional tests may be performed at your physician’s discretion.

In addition to a mental health evaluation, your Surrogate will be required to travel to your fertility clinic for a day of testing and appointments.  There will be extensive blood tests taken from her and her partner to look for infectious diseases, common health problems, and drug use.  An ultrasound will be performed to evaluate her uterus for any scar tissue, fibroids, polyps or anatomical malformations that could interfere with becoming a Surrogate.

Once the medical approval process is complete, she will return home.  She should receive final confirmation of approval in 1-2 weeks once blood tests and the psychological evaluation have been reported.


Legal –

Contracts

Legal Process – Choosing Your Attorney​

Once clear blood results and psychological reports have been received in 8-10 days after she visited the fertility clinic, your prospective Surrogate is then officially “approved” by your clinic. All that’s left before you can begin your journey is a surrogacy contract.

One of the most important steps you can take to protect yourself and your gestational carrier is to select a qualified attorney experienced in surrogacy to discuss all of the legal aspects of the surrogacy process. Family Makers is privileged to partner with legal experts throughout the United States to prepare and negotiate your surrogacy agreement. In most cases, you will use this same legal expert once your Surrogate becomes pregnant to ensure you are acknowledged as the baby’s legal parents by obtaining a Pre-Birth Order.

Contracts

Legal contracts can be stressful, even for matches who believe they are on the same page about everything. As part of preparing for this stage of the process, Family Makers will supply a detailed list of match terms outlining all of the things you and your Surrogate have already agreed on, including compensation, monthly allowances, benefits, and delivery location. Surrogacy contracts, some as long as forty pages, cover anything and everything that could arise during your journey and can provide you with peace of mind that both parties are as protected as possible throughout the medical surrogacy process. Once contracts have been approved by you and by your Surrogate, you will visit a notary to sign. It’s now official, and the exciting part begins!


Getting

Pregnant

Preparing for Embryo Transfer

Once your attorney has provided a legal clearance letter to your clinic stating that contracts have been finalized and executed, several things start happening! In addition to the administrative side of things that we will handle, such as setting up your escrow account and activating any required insurance policies, your Surrogate will finally begin preparing for successful embryo transfer. During this time, your clinic will also create a medication calendar, medical procedure, and protocol for your Surrogate to follow. Your Surrogate’s Case Manager will review her shipment of medications and instructions to confirm that there are no outstanding questions or concerns she should address with the clinic before beginning.

Many Surrogates do not live physically close to their Intended Parent’s fertility clinic, which means that a clinic located near her home is utilized. This clinic is what we call a “monitoring clinic” and is where your surrogate  will be receiving 2-3 ultrasound check-ins and blood work in preparation for transfer.

Transfer Day!

This is a big day and one you’ve been waiting for! Some Intended Parents and their Surrogates come dressed in matching pineapple socks, transfer shirts, lucky green polish, or other ways symbolizing the day. Just as common are those that are more reserved and do not do anything. Whatever your preference, many Intended Parents are present for embryo transfer and are allowed in the procedure room to witness the big moment. Most procedures occur mid-day, so your Surrogate will usually be asked to arrive the day before or the morning of the transfer. The procedure itself lasts a few moments, and then the 10-day countdown begins to find out if your Surrogate is pregnant


Early

Pregnancy

Positive Pregnancy Test!

Ten days after transfer, a blood test is performed to determine if a specific hormone, HCG,  is present to indicate pregnancy. The test is commonly called “beta” and should show an increase in HCG steadily over time. Your fertility specialist will order a second and sometimes third blood test to ensure that these levels are rising, indicating a viable pregnancy.

Approximately 3 weeks after your Surrogate’s last blood test, she will be scheduled for her first ultrasound check-ins to look for the baby’s heartbeat! This appointment usually takes place at her monitoring clinic or OB’s office.

We Have a Heartbeat!  – First Trimester of Pregnancy

You’ve heard the most precious sound in the world – your baby’s heartbeat!  Because this is a surrogacy pregnancy created through IVF, this pregnancy will be treated a bit differently than others.  Instead of an OB appointment, your Surrogate will continue being monitored by your fertility specialist for another 4-6 weeks after heartbeat is confirmed to ensure there are no complications or concerns prior to being released to a general obstetrician or midwife.  Your Surrogate will also stay on hormonal medications to support the pregnancy for several more weeks.​

Once released from the care of your fertility specialist between 9-12 weeks, your Surrogate will begin attending regular prenatal appointments at her own provider’s office that will be managing the remainder of the pregnancy.  Intended Parents are many times able to join one of these first appointments in person, over video call, or by phone to “meet” the staff or ask questions as a new Parent.

One of the first tests many Parents learn about during pregnancy is prenatal testing (also called NIPT), a simple blood test that can identify possible genetic abnormalities.  An ultrasound-guided test called a nuchal translucency test can also be performed to check for early signs of physical birth defects as well.  We encourage Parents and their Surrogates to discuss these optional tests with the provider during their first visit since it can only be done before 14 weeks gestation.  Billing, insurance, and HIPAA releases can also be addressed during one of these first trimester visits.


Establishing

Your Legal Rights

Second Trimester of Pregnancy

We hope that the second trimester of pregnancy is a relatively quiet and enjoyable time for both you and your Surrogate.  At the 18-20 week mark, an anatomy scan will be performed to evaluate growth and to ensure everything is as it should be.  Many Intended Parents attend this milestone appointment for a chance to see their baby and visit with their Surrogate. If you have not already discovered your baby’s gender and want to, you can find out now.  Some Parents want to be the first to know and keep the secret to themselves, others like to plan a party and make an announcement.

Establishing Your Parental Rights

Once your Surrogate has reached the middle of her pregnancy, we will initiate a vital part of the legal process in order to establish your rights as your baby’s Parent between 18-24 weeks of pregnancy.  A Pre-Birth Order (commonly referred to as the PBO) is used in all but a handful of states to assign parentage prior to the baby’s birth. Once the baby is born, the document goes into effect and protects your parental rights.  These rights allow you to make medical decisions regarding care of your baby, ensures that your name goes on your baby’s birth certificate, can assist in resolving insurance claim issues, and allows the baby to be discharged home in your care.

While more uncommon, a few states do not utilize a Pre-Birth Order process, but uses a similar document called a Post-Birth Order instead.  Rather than the order being prepared prior to baby’s birth, paperwork is filed after the baby’s birth sometimes with or without a hearing.   If a great potential Surrogate is in a state that does not utilize Pre-Birth Orders, Family Makers will discuss that with you prior to matching to ensure you understand the process completely.


Preparing

for Birth

Setting Expectations for Delivery

During the third trimester, we recommend touring the hospital where your baby will be born if you haven’t already during a previous visit.  From assisting with travel for our Intended Parents who aren’t local to their Surrogate, to ensuring the hospital is provided with all the insurance and legal paperwork needed, Family Makers will do everything needed for a positive experience during this exciting time.

Many Intended Parents have questions about how exactly the delivery will go.  Can you be in the delivery room?  Will you get your own room after the baby is born?  What if you miss the birth due to travel delays?  What happens in case of a c-section or complications? Should a pediatrician be selected?  Is it possible to fly home with a newborn?  Should you bring a gift for your Surrogate?  Can your Surrogate provide breast milk? What should you pack and bring with you?

All of these questions, we can help answer to ensure you feel as prepared as possible when the big day arrives!

Delivery Day!

Whether delivery is planned, or you receive a phone call saying your Surrogate is in labor, delivery day can be extremely stressful and exciting all at the same time.  Many of the women who have completed journeys with us say one of the most special moments of their entire experience is witnessing their Intended Parents meeting their baby for the first time.  In most cases, Parents are allowed to attend delivery, or shortly after if a cesarean is performed.  Once your baby has arrived, we will request that you are provided with your own private area or room in the hospital to bond and enjoy one-on-one time with your baby after what has been an emotional journey.

If a Post-Birth Order or hearing is required to finalize your parental rights or to have your name on the birth certificate, Family Makers will initiate that process upon notification that your baby has been delivered.  In most cases, you will receive a copy of your child’s birth certificate in 1-3 weeks after birth with your name as the baby’s parent.


Support

After Delivery

Supporting Your Surrogate after Delivery

Understandably, a lot of energy and activity went into bringing your baby into the world. The end of a journey can create some unexpected feelings and emotions as a Surrogate recovers physically and emotionally from the birthing experience.  Many are excited to get back to their normal lives and schedules, while others struggle to refocus their energy and emotions after so much has been put into the last year or two.  Postpartum hormones can play a big part in how a Surrogate feels emotionally weeks after birth, as does her actual physical recovery.  Each Surrogate’s Case Manager follows her progress postpartum to offer encouragement and resources for a successful recovery.  For those who are donating breastmilk, we have a Postpartum Coordinator who can guide her on logistics and best practices regarding pumping and shipping.

Administrative Support

There can be quite a bit of administrative work after your baby has been delivered, and Family Makers assists with making sure that it all gets done.  Even with extensive preparation and instruction, sometimes medical providers and hospitals make errors with regard to filing insurance.  Sometimes insurance claims aren’t paid correctly or completely, and need to be appealed.

Each journey we oversee has a dedicated escrow account which funds some of the larger costs related to your journey.  The contract with your Surrogate will determine how long after delivery the account must remain open cover expected or unexpected costs.  We will verify what expenses we are still expecting, and work with your Surrogate to provide any necessary documentation needed to process anything still owed.  Once a final audit of your account has taken place, all unused funds are immediately refunded to you.

For our international clients, your baby is considered a U.S. citizen and is entitled to a U.S. passport in order to travel home.  Family Makers can assist with obtaining a passport for your newborn, ensure that newborn insurance is in place, and that steps for citizenship are completed.  Family Makers always recommends that all Intended Parents consult with an attorney in their home country to review specific processes and requirements for returning home with your baby.

Intended Parents’ Success Stories

Very successful journey with Family Makers.

Very successful journey with Family Makers. They are extremely hands on and honest. I highly recommend.

- Danielle T.

We are forever grateful for Family Makers.

My story began 15 years ago when I finally decided to consider surrogacy as a way to having a family. As each year rolled by I found out that the fertility journey is not easy. I discovered the road was pretty complicated and super expensive. I faced several disappointments in searching for a surrogate and went through a significant amount of savings. I was about to give up but my desire for a family kept me searching and I found Family Makers. What was amazing was their affordability and that they would not only find a suitable surrogate but they would handle all the legal and personal details throughout the journey through the birth of our child! Family Makers exceeded our expectations in their very personalized service and dedication. What had taken me 15 years to find an appropriate surrogate, happened in about four months! Finally, we had our surrogate! Once they found our surrogate, the agency managed the entire process through to the birth of our baby girl! Our minds, hearts and nerves were put at ease throughout the journey because Ashlee and her team at Family Makers was there for us taking care of everything! We are forever grateful for Family Makers and their commitment to making miracles and happy families around the world! Thank you Family Makers!

- Dianne S., Anthony M., and Baby Girl Destiny

Both surrogates … loved working with Family Makers.

Ashlee was available to answer any questions or concerns pretty much day or night. She suggested ways for us to save money, and helped us make a financial plan so that we could prepare as much as possible. Four months after bringing home our baby, we got a phone call saying that insurance had come back and denied all claims despite having written verification that the policy should have covered everything. I am so thankful that we had someone to help us navigate all that, help us refile all the claims, and for all the followup it took until it was taken care of even though that first journey had been long over. I understand that a lot of people don’t need so much support, but infertility and surrogacy is a very lonely and difficult experience sometimes for me and it’s nice to just be able to pick up the phone or send a text and feel like I have someone who “gets me” to talk me through whatever is happening. I think it says a lot when an agency is there through not just good times, but difficult ones too. I know both surrogates we have worked with have told me over and over how much they loved working with Family Makers as well.

- Jennifer H.

You absolutely won’t regret putting your journey in Ashlee’s capable hands.

Ashlee is an extremely knowledgeable and highly respected member of the surrogacy community. She is smart, compassionate, professional, and incredibly dedicated to helping intended parents and surrogates have amazing journeys together. Ashlee has firsthand experience as an intended mother, so she understands the struggles that many of us have faced with infertility, she knows what we need on the road to parenthood, and she knows exactly how to help intended parents and surrogates have the best experience. Ashlee is one of the few people I would trust completely to handle my delicate journey to motherhood, and I would highly recommend her to any surrogate or intended parent who is also looking for help. You absolutely won't regret putting your journey in Ashlee's capable hands.

- Carly S.

Ashlee was there for us and our Gestational Carrier every day and every step of the way.

I cannot thank Ashlee and Family Makers enough for my wonderful baby boy. Ashlee was there for us and our Gestational Carrier every day and every step of the way. She even answered all of my stupid questions and there were hundreds.

- Danielle K.

We are eternally thankful for our surrogate and Family Makers Surrogacy!​

Family Makers was instrumental in helping us fulfill our dream of completing our family! Not only did we get matched with the perfect surrogate for us, but Ashlee was also always there when we needed her, providing guidance and answering any and all questions we had. We are eternally thankful for our surrogate and Family Makers Surrogacy!​

- N & J
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