Dear Prospective Surrogate,
We thank you for your sacrifice and willingness to help couples who are struggling to conceive naturally. Without people like you, couples like us may not find ultimate family happiness. We strive to be as generous in everything that we do with the understanding that life isn’t perfect for anyone.
We began dating in 2011 and married in 2014. We envisioned starting a family shortly thereafter. Unfortunately, we’ve hit many bumps along the way leading to almost a 10-year journey with no children. I was pregnant in April 2016, after the passing of my grandfather days earlier, and we were thrilled. Sadly, this pregnancy ended in miscarriage at the end of May 2016. It was determined later that I had PCOS and we may have difficulty with conceiving. We continued trying, with the help of fertility medicine, and I was pregnant again in 2018. This pregnancy ended in ectopic pregnancy and emergency surgery including removing a right fallopian tube in November 2018. After the second miscarriage, there were many doctors’ appointments, with lots of time and effort to get our miracle child(ren).
We began the journey with our RE in January 2020 just before COVID. At that time, I had to lose a substantial amount of weight to be considered for IVF. The rest of 2020, during the pandemic, was spent reaching that goal. In January 2021, we went back to our RE since I’d lost 97 pounds and was ready to start the IVF journey. We were ecstatic we made it this far! In June 2021, I had the egg retrieval, and ended up with 4 normal embryos. We had our first FET in August 2021 that resulted in a chemical pregnancy. We were devastated but knew we had to try again. In November 2021, we proceeded with the second FET and it did not take. After a break for the holidays, we decided to try for a third FET. We proceeded with this in February 2022, and I ended up pregnant! We were excited, but also remained cautious given our journey thus far. We went for our 8-week ultrasound in April 2022 and unfortunately, I had a case of a blighted ovum and we were no longer pregnant. We weren’t certain where to go from here, with one embryo remaining (for now), until our RE suggested a Surrogate if we were willing.
This brings us to now, 2023. It feels like our last hope may be to have a child through surrogacy. We remain hopeful that our miracle may finally happen though we will never give up. We look forward to meeting the woman and her family who helps us complete our own family. We have so much love to give and hope to share our lives with a baby who would create so much happiness.
With love and gratitude,
J + R