Dear Prospective Surrogate,

I hope this letter finds you well. I’m T, wife to B, and “Momma” to our daughter. B and I grew up in the same hometown, where we currently live, and met each other when we were 14 years old. We started dating when we turned 16. Fast forward 30+ years and we’re still holding strong. We both attended and graduated from UGA. B later went on to receive his masters degree. I have an associate degree in Psychology and bachelor degree in Sociology. However, instead of delving into a career of social work after college, that came later, I worked at a veterinary clinic as a technician for many years. I’ve always loved animals and it was a great job for me at that time in my life. I enjoyed the animals and science so much that I felt I may have missed my calling, UNTIL I became a mother.

B and I married at age 24 and found out we were expecting after 10 years of marriage! I worked for about 5 months after having our daughter and decided that I wanted to be a stay at home mom. I didn’t want to miss anything. I’m grateful that Ben and I were able to make it work. I enjoyed being room mom each year and planning the holiday parties. I volunteered at preschool and throughout elementary school.

During this time, as I was busy with all of the mom things, B was busy building his businesses. He’s an entrepreneur and while it’s awesome to be your own boss, it doesn’t allow for much free time. B worked very hard during this time to make it possible for me to stay at home to raise our daughter and I truly appreciate his sacrifices for us. Before we knew it, we were in our 40s and longing for another child. It didn’t happen and a few years later, I was diagnosed with cancer. I had to have a hysterectomy and we thought all hope of having another child was gone. I went through chemo and we’re finally feeling a sense of normalcy again after those very difficult years.

We now have a 13 year old daughter and she is the light of our lives. She’s smart and funny. She loves to play the piano and read. When meeting new people, she’s quiet until she feels comfortable. She’s quite the conversationalist when she’s talking about things that interest her. She could talk all day about our cats or ancient history! She’s an excellent student. She’s meticulous and organized. She amazes me! We’re so proud of her!

On the weekends, we usually go out to dinner and watch movies/Netflix at home. I personally like British crime shows, documentaries, and comedies. B likes SciFi, comedies, and documentaries. Our daughter enjoys Anime and spends a lot of time on the phone talking to her friends.

B and I feel that another child would complete our family, and surrogacy is our last hope. Our daughter longs to be a big sister and we want to complete our family. We have a loving home and have plenty of time to spend with a child. This time around, we can both be there for all of the milestones.

My hope for the future would be that we could become friends and that I would be someone you feel comfortable talking to whether it be about the pregnancy or just something funny that may happen on any particular day. I’m not going into this with any rigid expectations. If you are only comfortable with sharing information concerning the pregnancy, that’s completely fine and understandable. We want you to be comfortable during this process. We appreciate your consideration.

Kindest Regards,

T + B