Where purpose meets possibility

J + M are in need of a surrogate to complete their family after J had to undergo a life saving hysterectomy. They are wanting a close relationship that continues well after delivery. Want to learn more about them and see if you could be the person they have been looking for?

Letter

Dear Prospective Surrogate,

We are J and M. And it is so incredible that you are considering helping us complete our family!

We live in Connecticut. I am a psychiatrist and M is a Cardiac Sonographer. M is a Canadian Citizen and I am a citizen of India. It has been a long time since I have been able to travel home but after 7 long years I am finally going back home to visit this year and I am very excited about it!

My husband and I met each other through a common friend in Toronto and got married in 2019. We had our daughter, H, in June 2024 after a long struggle with infertility. I had 3 losses and I was even losing normal embryos so we worked with a specialist out of Chicago and got our miracle little girl! I also have a son who is now 16 (I know time flies by so fast!) and he is just the best big brother! He loves his sister so much and I am so blessed and thankful to have them both.

Unfortunately I had a traumatic delivery at the time of my daughters’ birth. I had a severe postpartum hemorrhage and my uterus had to be taken out to save my life. I was in the ICU and could not see my daughter for a whole month. I am happy to be alive and be there for my daughter. Our daughter is our world. My husband and I have always wanted to have two kids but I cannot carry our second as I don’t have a uterus anymore. We have one more embryo which is genetically tested, normal, and good quality.

Knowing that I have the opportunity to become a mother again makes me so happy and it’s all because of generous people like you! I love my job as an addiction psychiatrist, and work full time. In my free time I like to travel and read books. M likes gardening and feeding the birds. The birds will wake us up at 6:30 in the morning if we aren’t already awake! It is so adorable watching my husband feed all his “pets”. We have several flowering houseplants in our garden in summers ranging from dahlia, hydrangeas, roses, lilies, tulips and phlox. We have bird feeders and a bird bath in our backyard. The birds, deer and squirrels have been frequenting our backyard for many years now. Feeding them gives us immense pleasure and keeps us connected to nature.

We are so thankful you took the opportunity to learn about us and hope you felt a connection. 

We cannot wait to meet you!

With love,

J + M

J + C welcomed their first child via surrogacy with Family Makers in late 2025, they are hoping to give their daughter a sibling and bring even more joy to their lives. They are looking to grow a close bond with their surrogate and continue the relationship well after delivery. As experienced Intended Parents they know they can help support their surrogate in all the important ways.

Letter

Dear Prospective Surrogate,

First and foremost, thank you! 

Thank you for being brave and generous, and for answering the call to help families like mine  grow. Thank you for considering meeting with me and my husband, and for possibly choosing us  as your intended parents. 

My name is J. I grew up in Taiwan in a large, traditional Asian family with four siblings. I am the youngest of five. My parents came from very modest backgrounds. Despite having only a few years of elementary school education, my dad was determined to provide for his family. He worked his way up from an apprentice at a tailor shop to eventually owning his own small clothing business. My mom worked tirelessly alongside him, and together they gave us not only opportunities for education, but also a warm, supportive home. Their example of love, hard work, and family shaped everything I value today. 

My own journey brought me to the U.S. for graduate school, where I joined the PhD program at  Cornell Medical College in New York. There, I met my husband C, and we married in New York City toward the end of graduate school. After finishing our studies, we moved to Massachusetts, where we’ve now lived for over 10 years. We share our home with two cats, Garlic and Potato, and have built a life full of friendships, adventures, and dreams for a family. 

Those dreams became real this year. After a long and difficult journey, C and I were blessed to  welcome our first child, a beautiful baby girl named L, who was born through surrogacy with the  help of the Family Makers team in late 2025. L has already brought us more joy than we ever imagined. She is a reminder of the generosity and courage it takes for someone like you to help make families like ours possible. 

Now, our hearts are full of hope again. We dream of giving L a sister or brother to grow up with, someone to share childhood adventures, family trips, and the everyday joys of life. Growing up with siblings meant so much to me, and I want L to have that same gift: the laughter, companionship, and lifelong bond that only a sibling can provide. 

Our journey to parenthood has been marked by challenges; miscarriages, failed IVF attempts,  and the heartbreak of feeling our dream slip further away. But surrogacy has given us hope and  joy in ways we will never forget. We are deeply grateful to Family Makers and Ashlee for guiding  us on this path, and now, we hope that you might consider walking this journey with us too. 

C and I would be honored if you chose to help us bring L a sibling and expand our family. Your courage and generosity would mean the world to us. 

With gratitude and hope,

J + C + L

V + N are searching for a surrogate to help them welcome their first child into the world. After needing to have a life saving hysterectomy, they are unable to carry themselves. They pride themselves on building close relationships with everyone they can and are ready to support their surrogate before, during, and after the pregnancy.

Letter

Dear prospective surrogate, 

We are V (she/her), and N(he/him). We live in Massachusetts, a vibrant city filled with people from all walks of life and many universities. Both of us work full time – V as a cancer genomics researcher and N as a software engineer. We both grew up in India in different cities and cultural backgrounds and moved to the US in 2012 for grad school, just a few months after we had started dating. Our relationship is the most important foundation of our lives that allows us to grow and challenge ourselves while also truly feeling at home. Several trying circumstances over the years have taught us to deeply love and appreciate each other and also offer that love to our friends, chosen family, and community. We live with our recently adopted kitty cat (his name is Mrs. Pretty) who has already been giving us a small taste of parenting with his exuberant personality. Caring for him has brought us closer together in new ways and we are eagerly awaiting more love in our lives that will come when we welcome our child into this world.

We are writing to you together as well as individually in the hope that this will help you understand our vulnerable and sensitive sides and help you feel comfortable and motivated to choose us in this journey.

Our Journey

Both of us are only-children to our respective parents, who still live in India. Even though we grew up in very different cities, family-values, and cultures (we didn’t even speak the same language at home!), we met during college and became instant friends. N was drawn to V’s genuineness and curiosity while V instantly recognized N’s softness and playfulness. However, what truly connects us is how much we have helped lift each other up, while still holding on to the qualities that drew us together. Owing to differences and culture and caste, there was significant opposition to us getting married that we had to overcome while protecting our relationship. We have seen many relationships fall apart under such pressure so feel extremely grateful for making it through and do not take for granted what we have. 

When we first started dating (young adults just about to graduate college), we didn’t really know what a long term relationship looked like. In our cultures, dating was frowned upon so we had to figure out a path for ourselves. Moving to the US was a blessing because we would get space to understand each other, but the journey was far from easy. About a month into moving to the US, N had an emergency surgery which he recovered from with V’s care. Only 3 weeks later, V had a life-threatening bike accident that left her with a severe concussion and several big questions about her health. N stepped up to care for her and find answers. This largely defined our first few months after moving to the other side of the world with no family and a stressful first semester of grad school. This start would be testing for any relationship and surely was for ours too, but we persevered and learned to trust each other in new ways. Over the next few years, we would tackle several other distressing health challenges (for both Nt and V) where we didn’t have answers, we were in pain, often disabled, and certainly short on support. We persevered through that too and made room for joy and lightness while also doing our best to grow in our careers and pursue our passions. V is a dancer and an experienced performer while N is an active member of his workplace union and a fierce advocate for workers’ rights and social justice. 

Our hardest challenges were yet to come though. The pandemic turned our lives upside down making us very isolated. We were simultaneously dealing with a debilitating endometriosis and adenomyosis flareup for V. After months of advocacy to seek the right diagnosis and then find the right doctor, V was finally able to get a life-changing surgery (including a hysterectomy) in 2022 that for the first time in her life freed her from pain. This allowed both of us to dream and want more from life. It also encouraged V to change careers and both of us to move across the country to Massachusetts. Life finally seemed sorted, until misfortune struck in the form of an early stage breast cancer diagnosis for V that upended our lives once again. However, going through the cancer scare also made us realize that we had a deep desire to channel our love into a child. Our difficult childhoods and health challenges had perhaps kept us from acknowledging this desire all these years even though we both adore children and have received so much love from our friends’ kids. Every challenge we have faced has made us fall in love in new ways and given us much confidence that we can not only raise a child but also do so with love and compassion.

Values

The saying goes “it takes a village” – we are deeply aware of how our lives are not lived in isolation but are deeply impacted by our community, and in return we impact our community. Both of us identify as queer, even though we present as a heterosexual couple. Our growth as individuals and as a couple has been intimately supported by our chosen family, many of whom have their own experiences with marginalization and challenges navigating through a difficult world. As immigrants to the US, it has been an ongoing journey to lay down roots in an increasingly volatile political climate. What this means for us is that we put out a lot of care and support for our loved ones. Our relationships aren’t superficial but built around shared struggles. We know that nobody is perfect and we believe in offering grace to people who are honestly trying to do better. We also feel most comfortable when people are kind with us and allow us the space to be our imperfect selves. We are not afraid of difficult conversations and do put in effort to have them with our friends, co-workers, and most importantly with each other. 

V puts in a great deal of effort to check in on the people she cares about and help them directly to the best of her ability. She is a really good listener and remembers small details that matter. N is constantly thinking about how to create spaces that allow people to express themselves freely and safely. He is creative and has the ability to help people see their struggles more clearly. Together, our complementary skills and interests have helped us form deep bonds with people and also introduce our loved ones to each other. Nothing gives us more joy than seeing our loved ones thrive, and it is exactly what helps us thrive in return.

On Parenting

For us, having a child is meant to really expand our world and challenge us to grow in ways we don’t even know of yet. As parents, we believe that our role is to create a loving, nourishing, and safe environment that allows our child to fully express themselves and find their own happiness. We want to pass on softness, compassion, and resilience to our child. We know that we can’t protect them from everything, but we can surely equip them so they never have to suppress parts of themselves to survive in the same way that we had to do growing up.

This environment necessarily includes all the trusted adults in our life who will be key to our own support system as well as be there for our child. The other day, we had an emotional conversation about creating our will because the agency required it, and it was very relieving and heartening to realize that there are multiple people we would readily trust as guardians were something to happen to us. In this way, the surrogacy journey is really forcing us to re-evaluate our lives, priorities, and who and what makes our lives beautiful. Just like we fight for our relationship and our community, we will fight for our child in every way possible. This includes doing our best to create a world that we would want not only our child but all children to inherit.

On a Lighter Note

All the seriousness aside, we also really love to have fun. Our philosophy is simple – fun can never be forced, and fun should feel nourishing (as opposed to draining). For us, that includes doing art together, settling down after all chores and having a deep conversation, hosting a friend at home and cooking for them, going to a movie at the theater, trying new foods outdoors, reading, and more. Lately, we have been trying new ways to do fun things with our friends, which has been helping us build community in a new place in a sustainable way. Several of our friends have children – from newborns to teenagers – and we get so much joy from connecting with these kids and seeing the world through their eyes. Some months ago we stayed with our dear friends in California for over a week and deeply bonded with their 2 year old – it feels extremely special to know that she still remembers us even after leaving – just like we remember every little moment of joy she gave us. We can’t wait to have that in our life too and learn all the new ways our child will teach us to find more joy, play, meaning, and purpose in our life.

We mentioned our cat earlier – we’re still getting used to him as he is to us, but we’re also having a lot of fun figuring out his needs and cooking up games to play with him. Our love for cats goes all the way back to the early days of our relationship when we bonded over the love we had for cats we met on the streets of Berkeley. Since then, we’ve loved countless cats and thought of a dozen names for the cat we finally adopted (Mrs. Pretty was not on the list). Bringing a cat into our life has truly unlocked new dimensions of our personalities. While we wish we could have done it sooner, we really needed to heal from numerous health challenges and make space in our life to get to this point.

Vision for the Future

We hope that our letter to you has painted a picture of the kind of energy we bring. We would like nothing more than to share this with you and for you to enrich us with yours and your loved ones’ energy. We know that surrogacy is not an easy journey and we’re just getting started. We know that there will be challenges, difficult conversations, and a period of time where we will slowly get to know you better as a person. We know that trust takes time to build and it cannot be forced. Our approach would be to always take discomfort (yours and our own) seriously, talk about it, and keep moving forward. We are not afraid of expressing our feelings and making space for your feelings. We would like to learn about your life – your aspirations, fears, what you like, dislike, find annoying, etc. and hope you feel the same way towards us. If we are located close to you, we would be more than happy to be part of your support system through this journey. Even if we are located further away, we would make ourselves very available to help you navigate any challenges that come up in a kind and respectful way. If this matches up with your expectations and preferences, we hope you will choose to work with us.

V’s Words

Hello! Thank you so much for considering us. I am so honored and touched. I am very excited and nervous about this journey and I wanted to share with you some words from my heart. When I had my hysterectomy in Jan 2022, I could not even imagine that there would be a time in the near future where I actually felt better and would want to love more. Life was really difficult leading up to the surgery. When the surgeon said that having a hysterectomy would rid me of 98% of my symptoms, I was stunned. It forced me to think if I really wanted to let go of the possibility of having a child in the future. I was struggling with the decision but it was N’s words that convinced me to go through the hysterectomy. He wanted to see me live again and he wanted his wife back from the clutches of these twin diseases. While going into the surgery I feared that I was going to regret it when I woke up. But I did not. And that continued for sometime. But as life started getting better, I felt the desire to raise a child with N for the first time. That was when I started to experience a lot of grief and yearning. Still, life seemed much better than before and I didn’t think much about it. And then in 2024, I got the news of the pre-malignant breast tumors. On the one hand, I was confronted with my mortality but on the other, I could no longer deny my desire to love a child with Nishant. We had mostly decided that having a child was not on the cards for us, so when I first told N, he was touched and moved but also shocked. It took us a while to move through our emotions about it while also figuring out the complicated details of IVF and surrogacy. We are both now feeling empowered and ready to grow our family together. Our cat is definitely teaching us a lot about parenting but I won’t say that we know what it is to be parents to a human child. What I do know is that we will give it our best – to the child and to you. We will be with you every step of the way. I hope I can hold your hand as you give us the greatest gift. 

Lots of love, 

V

N’s Words

Hi! Thank you so much for reading about our journey and considering us. For much of my life, I did not think I would be a parent. It just didn’t seem to be for me. I was too afraid to be a bad parent. Given all the challenges V and I had been facing together, having a child also seemed quite impractical. It is a testament to our personal growth and the growth of our relationship that we find ourselves not only wanting to be parents, but also going through the surrogacy journey. I remember my shock from the moment V first told me she wanted to have a child. I remember feeling a rush of love for her, but also feeling terrified. On the one hand, I really wanted us to prioritize our immediate health needs, but on the other hand I could see how deep V’s yearning was to give our love to a child. I felt torn and it took me many months to begin accepting that we could do this. Those were some difficult months as we figured out cancer treatment and IVF cycles, while also navigating a difficult situation with my job. We were extremely fortunate to not need more than two cycles, but going ahead with the surrogacy journey still felt daunting – emotionally, financially, logistically. Even though we had learned a lot more over the past year and knew how to go about the process, I found myself questioning whether this was for us. Today I’m in a very different place. I’m still very terrified but I also have a lot of faith in myself and in us. Looking back, we have built a life that is so full of love, care, and nourishment that I feel excited to think about how much we can do for our child and help them thrive. Having played with our friends’ children over the past few months has strengthened that conviction. I used to think I didn’t understand children, but I’ve been able to recognize all the intuitive ways in which I actually can, and very importantly, how much I want to do it. While there is still a lot to learn, one truth I know is that this journey is only possible and makes sense because it is with V and coming from a place of love. Even parenting our cat together has only strengthened that conviction. V once told me that babies are a “force of nature” and they will force you to change. I believe in that. For you to be part of this journey with us means a lot and we will do our best to support you through every step of the way. 

Lots of love, 

N

Thank you for taking the time to learn about us 

With love, 

V + N

A + P are coming back to Family Makers looking for a surrogate to help them on their final journey. They have one high grade embryo left and would like to give him a shot at life!

Letter

Dear Prospective Surrogate,

It is so great to meet you! We are A and D from Georgia. We would love to take this opportunity to tell you more about ourselves and our growing family! 

Fortunately, we are quite familiar with the surrogacy process, as this will be our third journey! Our second journey was with Family Makers, and we had such a wonderful experience that we would like to do it again! We still enjoy keeping in touch with our past surrogates, and we remain friends to this day!

We are so blessed to have two healthy children: R and A. Even though our house is in total chaos right now, we have great support from our family and a wonderful nanny who helps us while I work part time. We are hoping to plan our next surrogacy match process so that when our third child is born, R and A will be in preschool and out of diapers!

As far as our backgrounds go, D grew up in a suburb of Atlanta, GA. I spent my childhood in suburban Richmond, VA and then moved to South Carolina in the 9th grade. Moving was hard, but as I look back on it, I think it was a really good experience for me. It taught me to be more outgoing, and more willing to try new things so I could make friends. D enjoyed camping and backpacking when he was young. He was active in Boy Scouts and earned the rank of Eagle Scout in high school. He really wants to get involved in Scouts and camping in the future when our son R is older. I like the idea of being outdoors but honestly, if I had to choose, I would prefer to be on the lake instead of in the woods. I grew up boating, so I feel most relaxed when I’m near the water. My parents have a cabin on a lake in South Carolina, and I used to love spending weekends there in the summer. (We haven’t really gone anywhere since the children were born but I am hoping to muster up the courage to take them on a road trip soon!)

Regarding our current hobbies, I was a cheerleader as a child and throughout my college years, but I sometimes wish I had taken more time to learn a sport like tennis or golf. D has been taking golf lessons for several years now, which is funny because he hardly ever has the time to actually play. As for me, if I ever get free time away from the kids I try to sneak away to a good movie. I still love the experience of going to a theatre...the popcorn and reclining seats make me so happy.

I also love live music; we have a great outdoor concert venue down the street from where we currently live (D will sometimes go with me and wear his ear plugs to block out the noise!). 

D and I first met almost 20 years ago in Charleston, SC, where D had recently finished his residency training in Internal Medicine and I was in my third year of medical school. D claims we met in the library, but I could have sworn that we first saw each other out at a bar with mutual friends. Part of the confusion comes because D's identical twin brother was also in Charleston, working in the same job as D. For the first few months after I met them, I honestly wasn’t sure which person I was talking to! As I got to know them better, I ended up connecting more with D. We had a lot in common and quickly became friends. We are both from the South, grew up Baptist, and we are both really close to our families. We finally started dating right before he moved out of state...talk about bad timing!

Over those next years we continued a long distance relationship, as we ended up living in different states to continue our individual medical training. Throughout all of this moving around, we would often meet up in different cities if we could find a last minute travel deal. I have so many funny stories of our weekend get-togethers because we are not the ideal travel companions. D never stops what we are doing to eat, so I spend most of the days starving and complaining about how bored I am while he slowly strolls through history museums, stopping to read about every exhibit. D also has a habit of planning excursions and not telling me what to pack, so there have been a couple of occasions where I ended up going hiking in dressy shoes!

D and I got married in the summer of 2019 after I agreed to move to Georgia, where he had started his own medical practice with his brother. I found a great job in outpatient primary care and decided to go part time after our babies were born.

As far as personalities go, our friends usually describe us as outgoing and friendly. D will make conversation with anyone we meet, but I am usually the one who talks more when we are in a group setting. Whenever we are outside, D has this awkward habit of stopping each dog owner we pass to ask them what breed the dog is! (By the way, we are huge animal lovers but we don’t have any pets of our own yet.)

I would describe both of us as pretty laid-back, but we tend to be relaxed in different ways. D never gets in a hurry to do anything, while I spend my day running around in circles trying to get things done. On the flip side, D is more of the disciplinarian for our children, while I am the one who lets them eat breakfast in front of the TV and pour Cheerios all over the floor.

Because D was 43 and I was 38 years old when we got married, we figured we would have to do some fertility treatments to make embryos, but we assumed that the rest of it would be easy! Gosh, were we wrong! We had multiple successful IVF cycles with the creation of healthy embryos, but for some unknown reason the embryos would not implant in my uterus. The process was definitely frustrating at times because we would go into every procedure thinking it should work and then get disappointed every time it didn’t. After having had five failed embryo transfers and several failed IUI attempts, our fertility doctor recommended looking into gestational surrogacy. When I heard this news, the first thing I thought about was my closet full of maternity clothes that my sister-in-law had handed down to me. I was really looking forward to wearing them one day to show off my big pregnant belly!

I do sometimes wonder what it would have felt like to carry a pregnancy, but then I think about how blessed we are to have the option of gestational surrogacy. Even though we feel fulfilled and are so thankful to have two healthy children, we would love another opportunity to grow our family. The relationship between an intended parent and gestational carrier is so unique and special that I can’t even describe it in words. We are so excited about this potential journey and we can’t wait to meet you... you are already such a blessing to us!

With love,

A & D

J + S are in need of a surrogate after J was diagnosed with cancer and unexplained infertility. She successfully carried her first two children but after experiencing severe postpartum eclampsia it is unsafe for her to carry again. They would like to build an organic relationship built on trust, communication, and respect.

Letter

Dear Prospective Surrogate,

We are so excited and grateful for your consideration in helping us grow our family. What a uniquely generous person you must be! My husband, S, and I live in Florida with our two little IVF miracles, Z and J, and our cockapoo, Buckwheat. We’ve had a long, challenging journey building our family, but man, is it worth it! S and I both grew up in large, boisterous families- mine a Palestinian Catholic family with a huge community in Florida, his an Italian Catholic family in New England, with Boston sports a part of their religion. We are thrilled to be growing our very own family, overflowing with love and madness. 

S and I are both the eldest child, so no one is surprised to hear we met while studying medicine at college. S wisely left the arctic tundra of Massachusetts at 18 for North Carolina, and I joined him there after graduating from the University of Florida (Go Gators!). We survived years of chaotic residency and work hours, a long-distance relationship and practicing medicine while going through IVF during the COVID-19 pandemic, all which contributed to our resilience as a couple.

We lived in Washington, DC, for several years after school and absolutely loved it- the big city culture, walking everywhere, meeting friends from all over the map, exploring Smithsonian museums, trying new restaurants, and taking part in the activism and energy of Capitol Hill (without the drama of actually working in politics). We got engaged at the Library of Congress, where our parents were sneakily hiding to celebrate with us, and we married in 2016. We decided to settle down closer to family in Florida.

As two hardworking medical professionals, we were devastated by the years of unexplained infertility. We ached to have our babies in our arms, and when less invasive methods failed, we moved to IVF. In the midst of multiple egg retrievals and miscarriages, we were handed another unexpected blow- I was found to have thyroid cancer at the age of 36. I prayed, underwent thyroid surgery and persisted. There were many dark months filled with surgeries and uncertainties, but we clung to the belief that our babies would find their way home. Light broke through all the clouds when I was deemed cancer-free, and we were blessed with our son, Z.

Z instantly became the joy of our lives. He is a happy-go-lucky little dude, a jokester, and an empath. He adores being around other people, whether it's his sister, extended family, or other children at the park (which he lovingly calls “my friends” even if we’ve never met them before)! We were over the moon to welcome his baby sister, J, a few years later. J is a smiley girl with a bit more sass and independence than her brother. She giggles nonstop at his antics and can often be found crawling around the house after him or Buckwheat. Watching their friendship develop this last year has been one of the best parts of parenting so far. We have always hoped to welcome a third sibling to further fill our home and hearts. Honestly, we’ve seen and done some pretty cool things, but nothing compares to watching the bond develop between your children.

Our favorite pastime is going on “family adventures” (as Z likes to call them). Sometimes they are simple things, like going to a football game or helping the kids place the seeds in our vegetable garden. Other times, we’ll go on a family run, where we make Dad push the stroller while both kiddos relax with their snacks and I jog alongside them. At least a few times a year, we travel and explore new cities or visit family in New England. We just returned home from NYC, where we visited Santa at Macy’s, saw the Rockettes, and sipped hot chocolate with the grandparents in Central Park.

We love going big for holidays, and our house is often the one that has cars slow down to check out the decorations. We had a smooth delivery and brought our bundle home to a festive abode. Unfortunately, I was readmitted to the hospital just five days later.

I was diagnosed with severe postpartum preeclampsia with lingering complications. Due to numerous risk factors, it is not safe for any future baby or myself to consider carrying another pregnancy. That fact slowly settled in over this past year and still breaks my heart to this day. With that being said, I am overwhelmingly grateful for people like you who give life to our dream of having a family of five. My Reproductive Endocrinologist and OB have both been very supportive of pursuing surrogacy, knowing everything I have gone through to become a mother.

Our hope is to develop an organic relationship with you, centered on trust, open communication, and mutual respect. We value your health, safety, and personal boundaries, and believe transparency and communication are key to everyone feeling comfortable on this journey.

Thank you for taking a glimpse into our lives. I hope you can feel the warmth and love we have to share with our growing family. We are deeply grateful for your consideration and look forward to getting to know you!

With Love,

J & S

D + C are looking for a surrogate to help them become first time dads! They would like to be as involved in the pregnancy as they can be. They would like to grow a healthy organic relationship and support their surrogate however they can. Please read more below!

Letter

Dear Prospective Surrogate

Thank you, for the extraordinary amount of love in your heart and for the sacrifices that you and your entire family make to help Intended Parents like us. Thank you for devoting so much of yourself to supporting others, and for taking the time to read this letter to learn a little bit more about us and the family we’re dreaming of building.

Our names are D and C and we’ve been together for 14 (!) years and got married, surrounded by our family and friends, in 2017. C is a DC native and D moved there after college, and is originally from just outside of Philadelphia (and by just outside of Philadelphia, we do mean the entirely different state of...New Jersey.) We met through a mutual friend, a co-worker of D’s who also was one of C’s close friends from elementary school. She went on to perform our wedding ceremony and remains one of our closest friends today.

Our family and friends have always been the center of our universe. At the risk of sounding enormously cheesy, one of our earliest conversations was bonding over how we each remembered watching episodes of Angela Lansbury’s “Murder, She Wrote” with our grandmoms as little kids. We’ve both always shared the belief that we owe so much of who we are today to our families; particularly our parents and our grandparents. We knew that we wanted to build our own family together, raising kids who would one day have the same core family memories that we each carry with us.

For a long time, how we built our family included two different pathways. Before we got married, we took a “Maybe Baby” class in DC that explored both adoption and surrogacy. But after D’s Dad passed away a few days after our wedding in 2017, we knew surrogacy was the path we wanted to pursue. We believe families come in all shapes and sizes, and that your chosen family can be just as powerful and supportive as your birth family. But D’s Dad’s passing made clear that having a genetic link to our children felt important to us both.

We moved to Delaware a few years ago specifically to start our family building. Being in Delaware allows us to be just five minutes down the road from D’s Mom, and close to other relatives in both Delaware and Philadelphia. And DC, where C’s family is, is still close by and a huge part of our community. Moving during COVID wasn’t easy at first; but before too long we established a community of friends here that have continued to enrich our lives. We love sharing our home and our life with family and friends, our house has become the go to destination for family holidays (Thanksgiving is the high point of each year); and we love hosting our DC friends for long weekends whenever possible. We also love being so close to the Delaware and NJ beaches, and to other cities like Philly and New York. These are all places where we’re eager for our kids to create their own core memories, whether it’s ice cream on the boardwalk at the beach; taking in a Christmas light show in Philly; or day tripping up to New York to see a show on Broadway.

A typical weekend right now probably starts with us grabbing coffee and taking our dog Holly out for a long walk in one of the nearby parks. If the weather is nice, you’d find C working in our yard later in the day (and you may also find Holly out there with him, either lying regally in the sun; or chaotically chasing a squirrel or rabbit.) Yard work is how he unwinds, and we love using the backyard when we have friends and family over. D’s preferred method of unwinding isn’t quite as productive, you’re more likely to find him catching up on the latest reality TV. He won’t be able to give you advice on what types of flowers or trees to plant in your yard; but he could enthusiastically explain the history of a longstanding feud within a friend group of aspiring socialites from one of Bravo’s many shows.

Yard work and reality TV binges aside, we’re happiest when our home is full of our family and friends. We’re eager to welcome in a new chapter, incorporating a stroller into our walks with Holly; taking our kids up the street to the playground and soccer fields; embracing car pool duty for school and activities. Honestly, we’re so excited to build a family of our own that we’re even ready for the inevitable stepping on a Lego barefoot in the middle of the night because we’re trying to find a favorite blankie or stuffed animal whose absence cannot be tolerated.

We’re not entirely new to the surrogacy journey: In addition to having our embryos already created; we also were blessed last year to work with an absolutely incredible Surrogate and her family. While that journey didn’t end with a baby, it left us more certain than ever of two things: First and foremost, it instilled in us an even deeper appreciation for all that a Surrogate and her family do for IPs like us. Second, it strengthened our desire to become Dads even more than we thought possible. We know we’re on the path that we’re meant to be on to build our family, and we’re so grateful for all that you and other Surrogates do to help couples like us.

From the bottom of our hearts, thank you.

D & C

A + M are looking for a surrogate to help them become first time parents after several losses. They would like to grow a close and strong relationship with their surrogate. Please read more below!

Letter

Dear future surrogate, 

Thank you for taking the time to read through this letter and getting to know us a little bit. I hope it gives you an idea of who we are and why we would be so incredibly grateful to have you! 

My husband M and I (A) met in October of 2023 through an app! Amongst many things, we spoke about children early on, and we both knew we wanted children. He’s 1 of 5, but I’m an only child and I’ve always wanted a loud and chaotic house full of children. During this time, he also shared he has low sperm count and we would likely have to do IVF. It didn’t matter; we were all in. We were engaged 5 months later. It’s like that saying you hear, “when you know, you know”. A week after getting engaged I found out I was pregnant. It was truly a miracle since M was told he’s more likely to win the lottery than conceive naturally. We decided to go to the courthouse and get married earlier than planned because he was getting deployed the following month. We decided we’d have a ceremony with family and friends when he returned the following year. We were lucky enough to get an ultrasound to see the gestational sac the day before M’s deployment. It was so magical sharing that moment. Sadly, the week after he left, I had a miscarriage. I was devastated. It took me a long time before I no longer felt profound sadness when I saw someone pregnant. 

Fast forward to when M came back from his deployment, we jumped straight into IVF. This was when I discovered I had diminished ovarian reserve. I honestly didn’t fully understand what this meant until the results of my first egg retrieval. We had 2 embryos, and only one tested euploid. I immediately wanted to jump straight into another one, and we did. This time we got 3 embryos and wanted them to be PGT tested, however there was a miscommunication with the lab and they froze our embryos without testing. Given how little we had, we were concerned about thawing, doing a biopsy, and refreezing so we left them as is. 

We were now ready for transfers! However, brakes on, I was advised to get surgery and remove the fibroids I had in my uterus, one which was 9.5cms. I had the surgery and I’m so glad I did, because they also found endometriosis and removed that. I spent the next 3 months recovering and so incredibly eager for my transfer. After getting my surgeon’s blessing, I had my first transfer, which failed, followed by a second a few months later, which also failed. I was devastated! My IVF doc said everything was by the books, the hormone levels, the uterine lining thickness, my labs of Vit D and thyroid, etc. He didn't understand why I was where I was. So, he recommended I undergo in-depth screening with Pregume. Unfortunately, my results returned and I was found to have antiphospholipid syndrome (APS), anti-synthetase syndrome, and an allele mutation that increases my chances of blood clots (on top of the APS). Given my high risk for miscarriage, the risk of having autoimmune flair ups, and my limited embryos (only 2 now) we have decided to pursue surrogacy hoping that we have one child. It has been a very rough year, especially after these recent results, but we remain hopeful we can find a way to have a baby.  

Throughout this process we have still found ways to spend quality time together. We love to travel. My favorite place is Scotland, and M’s is Malta. When we’re not traveling, or working, M and I spend a lot of time together. We’re either at my dads house (40 minutes away) spending time with them or jumping into a new house project. The last thing we did was the patio in the back. It took us a couple of days, but we had so much fun building it. We also love going to new restaurants. I love food, and finding new spots with delicious meals is one of my favorite things to do. M likes to take small road trips so we sometimes jump on one of the backroads and just head in a certain direction for 1-2 hours and randomly stop at a little restaurant or coffee shop when we get hungry. We often times stop at antique shops we pass too, just to look through all the interesting things they sell. On Sundays we try to go to the local farmers’ market with our dog, Maeve. She leads us straight to the tent that sells the dog treats! Needless to say, she loves Sundays. We also enjoy classical and jazz, and try to go to some concerts as date nights. On regular weeknights after work, we’re either cooking or eating leftovers and watching something on TV. M loves movies, while I love shows, so we compromise and watch a movie and then next time a show, all while cuddling on the couch with Maeve.  

We truly hope you pick us to help build our little family. We’re happy to answer any and all questions and are an open book. We want you to know as much as possible, because this relationship we’re about to embark on is not to be taken lightly. Regardless of how close you’d like us to be with you, we will forever be changed by your willingness to help us grow a family. You will forever be thought of and thanked and praised for the impact you’re making in our lives. So even if you don’t pick us, thank you for doing this for a family in need. No words can ever convey the gratitude we or any other family will feel.

With Love,

A and M

K + C are in need of a surrogate after experiencing secondary infertility and multiple losses, after having their two daughters. They would like to grow a strong organic relationship and continue the relationship long after the delivery if their surrogate is open to it.

Letter

Dear Potential Surrogate,

Thank you so much for taking the time to learn about our family. Even writing this letter fills our hearts with gratitude, because the simple fact that you are open to helping another family grow speaks volumes about the kind of person you are.

We are a family of four, rooted in love, laughter, and the beautiful chaos of raising two wonderful daughters. S is 7, thoughtful and nurturing beyond her years, with a gentle heart and an old-soul kindness. W is 5, full of sparkle, curiosity, and joy, bringing light and laughter wherever she goes. Together, they are the heartbeat of our home. Our days are filled with school dropoffs, dance parties in the kitchen, bedtime stories, family dinners, and all the ordinary moments that somehow become extraordinary when shared with the people you love most. Being parents has been the greatest joy of our lives, and our family is built on closeness, honesty, and showing up for one another, especially during life’s harder seasons. We cherish traditions, quality time, and creating a home where our children feel deeply loved and secure.

Over the past three years, our journey to grow our family has taken an unexpected and heartbreaking turn. After welcoming S and W, we experienced secondary infertility and endured three miscarriages, all after seeing each baby’s heartbeat for 3+ weeks on ultrasounds. Each loss carried hope, dreams, and a child already deeply loved. Those losses changed us. They taught us resilience, humility, and a profound appreciation for the miracle of life, but they also showed us that sometimes the path forward looks very different than what we once imagined.

Our daughters often talk about wanting a sibling. They ask sweet, hopeful questions and talk about what kind of big sisters they want to be. Watching their excitement and love has only deepened our longing to give them the gift of another brother or sister, to complete our family in the way we’ve always envisioned. For us, surrogacy represents not just hope, but healing.

This journey is deeply meaningful to us because it symbolizes faith after loss, hope after heartbreak, and the belief that compassion and generosity can truly create miracles. We see surrogacy as a partnership rooted in trust, respect, transparency, and immense gratitude. We understand the magnitude of what you would be offering, and we would never take that gift lightly.

If you were to choose to walk this journey with us, please know that you would forever hold a special place in our hearts and in our family’s story. We promise to approach this experience with openness, kindness, and appreciation every step of the way. Our hope is to build a relationship that feels supportive, respectful, and meaningful for everyone involved.

Thank you for even considering our family and for the incredible compassion it takes to imagine helping another family grow. No matter where your journey leads, we are deeply thankful for your heart.

With sincere gratitude,

K and C

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