Dear Potential Surrogate,

We cannot begin to express how wonderful we think you are. What a selfless thing you have chosen to do for a family. The world is a better place because people like you are here. We are hopeful that someone like you chooses us. We are a family of 4 with 1 angel baby and would love nothing more than to grow our beautiful family. Below is a little bit about our surrogacy journey so far, a little bit about us as parents, as a couple, and as individuals. Thank you for taking the time to read our story. It’s one of my favorites.

We met in high school in 9th grade study hall. We became fast friends and started dating near the end of our freshman year. After graduation, we both went to college but A decided quickly that he had a higher calling to join the military. During his tech schooling, we got married and we just celebrated 17 years of marriage this year. We were married for 3 years when we got pregnant with our S. She is amazing and a true daddy’s girl. She is a friend to everyone she meets and is so bright and wonderful. I (A) who has worked my whole life, decided to become a stay at home mom. It was the best decision I have ever made and it is to this day my favorite “job” that I have ever had. When S was almost 2, we received orders overseas and traveled every chance we got. S was the perfect little travel buddy and she enjoyed every new adventure we went on. We had M a couple years after moving overseas. M is strong willed and determined. She is fearless, brave, a faithful friend, and a great living travel companion. She’s a mommy’s girl and loves to snuggle. Together our girls are wonderful sisters. They both treat everyone with kindness and are always willing to help anyone in need and we are so proud to be their parents. When M was almost one we loved back to the states. Despite moving, our girls are so resilient and make friends everywhere we go. They thrive with every new challenge they meet and are the best little people we know. As parents we take pride in raising good, faithful, and kindhearted children. Every weekend is spent together as a family, whether we are exploring a new city, going to a theme park, or playing a spot outside. We cook with our girls, coach their sports teams, and cheer them on in their academic achievements. We never miss a game, play, or award ceremony. Our girls are our whole world and we love them fiercely. Being a parent is the best title a person can have and we live by the motto “family comes first”.

As a couple we are a team and stand united. We are best friends. We go on dates and make time to spend together. We love to explore new places together, go axe throwing, play frisbee golf, or just walk around a farmers market. We love to have fun and are both very adventurous. Sometimes we take the day off work while the girls are in school and rent jet skis, go to lunch, go to the pool, just enjoy each other’s company. No babysitters required. We are grounded as a couple and do not yell or fight. Any disagreement is calmly talked about in private and never shared on public platforms or with anyone else. It is dealt with in house. We are very proud of the growth we have gained as a couple and as individuals. The military often hosts military/family retreats where they offer couple classes and opportunities for growing the bond we as a couple have. We attend every retreat we can. The love we have for each other is strong and we are each other’s best cheerleaders.

A works from home in mortgage lending. She loves to help people move into their dream homes, but most of all she loves being home with her children. She has the best of both worlds. She is a great mama bear and is so loving and kind with our girls. She enjoys working out, baking, crafting, hiking, and paddle boarding on the lake or snorkeling in the ocean. She has a pure soul and loves to help people in need. She also helps the local humane society fostering pups, which is why we currently have three dogs. Our dogs are all rescues and are greatly loved by our family. A works hard to balance her work life and family life and is amazing at it.

A is still in the military. He has an amazing job where he gets to help people and he is amazing at it. Despite his career, he makes it to every event our girls are part of. He even coaches their softball teams. He is a true guys-guy. He’s a strong athletic guy and is the best girl dad. Whatever our girls ask of him, he is doing. He teaches our girls important core values and is an amazing role model for how a man should treat a lady. His hobbies are fishing, working out, scuba diving, rock climbing, and he loves to build things. When he leaves the military, he would like to work at a fire department or somewhere he can still help those in need.

Our surrogacy journey:

We have two beautiful daughters that we were able to have naturally. We thought we were done having children, but got pregnant unexpectedly February 2024. We were over the moon and so thankful to have the opportunity to raise another child. Then we found out it was a boy. We were ecstatic. We love our girls but always dreamed of having a son. However, we learned quickly that something was wrong. I have a negative blood type and despite receiving rho-gam shots with our first two, my body had created an anti-D antibody that is present when women with a negative blood type carry a positive blood type baby. We were informed that our baby was growing well, but at some point the ant-bodies my body made would cross the placenta and make our baby anemic. This started happening around 25 weeks. Going to a specialized hospital where they could give him a blood transfusion via the umbilical cord was our only hope to help our boy. We traveled to the hospital and underwent our first blood transfusion. Since he was so small, it was hard to get him blood and they ultimately were unsuccessful at giving him enough. This meant we had to come back the next week. When we came back he was doing ok, but we learned that the donated blood from our transfusion had leaked into my body and my body created a second antibody against the baby, causing him to become more anemic. They kept me in the hospital for monitoring while we waited for specialized blood that didn’t have either antibody in it, so we could make our boy healthy again. However, as the night went on his heart rate started to decrease. After an emergency C-section he was born alive. The nursing staff were wonderful and tried their hardest to save him, but it was clear he wasn’t going to make it. That was by far the hardest day of our lives and something we would never wish on anyone. We got to hold our little boy for 45 minutes before he passed away. We are so thankful for those 45 minutes but our hearts ache every single day for him. Our little I lead a perfect life, only knowing the love of his mom, dad, and sisters. He is in heaven and one day we will see him again. As a mother it is so hard not to blame myself, because it was my body that hurt him. The doctors ran multiple tests and assured me it wasn’t anything I did or anything I could have prevented. Now that the antibodies have been made, they are there forever. There isn’t a supplement I can take, a surgery I can have, there is nothing I can do to make them leave my body so I can safely carry a baby. It’s a disheartening feeling, but there is hope because of people like you. The chance to have another baby is something we dream of everyday.

Growing our family is a major priority for us. We have created two embryos and are so hopeful to have another child. It is an emotional journey going through the surrogacy process, but it’s a ride we share with other amazing individuals with similar dreams. I just want to thank you again for taking the time to read through our journey. I wish you the best on your journey and maybe our paths will get to cross.

All the best,

A and A